Don’t you hate it when you are living in your new house and you don’t have internet yet so you start what promises to be a nice long blog post, all about the final adventures of your container, and it’s kicking right along and you’re being witty and pithy and all these other good things, and then you hand the computer to your son to do his homework and he closes your document without saving? Yeah, me too. That’s why I’m compulsive about hitting Ctrl S. Um, mostly, that is.
So, nearly a week in the new house. It’s a lovely house, really. We moved in last Thursday, the day the container arrived (spoiler!), but we still don’t have internet. I guess 3rd time’s the charm, even in these modern times. We ordered it last Thursday, ordered it again on Saturday, and ordered it again today (Wednesday). They’re promising we’ll have it tomorrow. If you’re reading this, you’ll know they eventually came through. Ironically, it was easier and quicker to get wireless internet in Morocco than it is in America; there, we went in to the office, requested it, paid a deposit, and had it that evening. I feel there is a lesson in this, although I’m not totally sure what it is—especially since these same people (Maroc Telecom) just sent us another bill, in spite of the fact that when Donn closed down the account they made extra sure we didn’t owe them anything before they gave us back our deposit.
As you may have noticed from my last several blog posts, I’ve been struggling a bit with being back in the US, but something good has come of it. We are the proud owners of a new house! Ok, the house was actually built around the time I was giving birth to my firstborn (I feel that is metaphorical; can you see it?), but it is new to us. It comes complete with a man-cave (Donn’s garage-office; our friend Tiffany came up with the name and it fits) and a lot more wall to wall carpeting than we are used to. I am hoping this means we slow down our average of broken glasses. We are rapidly making it a home and it feels good. We received the keys to it on my birthday, rather a fun detail.
In some ways, this was a relatively easy move. We’ve never shipped a container before, but this is the way to go. No more agonizing over what to keep, what to store, what to give away, what to sell, etc. Just bung everything in. And the result is that we seem to have a lot of stuff. I don’t know. We move a lot; we’re not pack rats. We get rid of things pretty easily. How can we still have so much?
In spite of feeling this way, I’ve moved into Stage Two of the Expat Returning from Africa Reverse Culture Shock (ERARCS for short. What do you mean it’s not a good acronym?) Stage One is where you go into a Target or Fred Meyer’s and are completely overwhelmed. Sometimes you feel nauseated; once, returning from Mauritania, I stood in front of a wall of hand lotion and started crying. I was used to Nivea, original or almond, and I could not handle an entire wall of choice.
Stage Two is where you walk through the stores and you want one of everything. Soap dispensers for the new bathroom! New hand towels—the old ones are kinda disgusting now. New tea towels too! And wouldn’t that shelf be cute on the wall above the table? Oh, look, cute bedding too! Curtains! And look at those pots and pans—you’ve always wanted one of those tall ones with a colander in it! What about a fall wreath for the door?
It is endless and sometimes nauseating too, and don’t worry—I’m not acting on these impulses. I’m still working on getting my kitchen stocked. And pictures hung. And getting rid of all these boxes!
13 comments
October 15, 2010 at 6:51 am
Linda
Congratulations on the new house. We sold our apartment on my birthday. It sort of feels like a wink from God when something good happens on a birthday.
October 15, 2010 at 9:39 am
meredith
Yay for the house. What color is your kitchen? Il faut pendre la crémaillère!
October 15, 2010 at 2:25 pm
Jennifer, Snapshot
Congrats on the house!
I had definitely heard of “stage 1,” but didn’t know about the far more dangerous stage two setting in. Good luck with that. I think in some it’s a chronic condition, even if they’ve never lived in Africa.
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October 15, 2010 at 2:26 pm
Jennifer, Snapshot
Congrats on the house!
I had definitely heard of “stage 1,” but didn’t know about the far more dangerous stage two setting in. Good luck with that. I think in some it’s a chronic condition, even if they’ve never lived in Africa.
Btw–you might not have got my comment reply, but you won Extraordinary on 5M4B, so you can just reply to this email, or 5M4B with your address. Your NEW U.S. address, that is!!
October 15, 2010 at 2:27 pm
LIB
Hopefully State three of the Expat Returning from Africa Reverse Culture Shock (ERARCS) is being able to be a healthy, restraint consumer.
Congratulations on the new house and I love reading about your life!
October 15, 2010 at 7:50 pm
Rachel
Congratulations on the house! I hope the kids are settling into their school.
October 16, 2010 at 1:53 am
Mary Margaret
I remember when you wrote about material stuff/culture shock ( years ago now, I believe) you said “I want all of it and none of it at the same time.”
October 16, 2010 at 10:20 am
Antique Mommy
I suffer from retail-nausea too. I usually leave department stores empty handed because I am overwhelmed with all the choices. And how much everything costs.
October 18, 2010 at 1:33 pm
Debbie
So glad you’re in your own place. Hope you settle in quickly and that it starts feeling like “home” soon!
October 19, 2010 at 1:08 am
suburbancorrespondent who is too old and tired to remember to leave that money under a pillow
Hmmm….I’m in Stage 2, and I haven’t returned from an overseas posting! Around here, we just call it the Target Syndrome.
October 19, 2010 at 8:23 am
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October 26, 2010 at 1:05 am
LG
I think there is a stage 2 1/2 where you actually buy some of the stuff you are looking at and take it home. Somewhere in there I realized that I was buying stuff I didn’t really want. It reminded me of mindless eating…. So I kept all my receipts and for about two months I returned something every couple of weeks. I felt sooo stupid, but looking back I know it was some weird kind of reverse culture shock. I still keep my receipts, but haven’t had to return anything for a couple of months!
November 8, 2010 at 11:56 pm
Kim
What a great birthday present 🙂
We only spent one year in Africa but had those same overwhelmed-with-too-many-choices feelings.
Going back to the U.S. tomorrow night; the daughter’s getting married next month. Wondering how this return will be. Our life here is different but not so extremely different. We shall see.