People always comment, it seems, when I post under the tag boring everyday life. “Your life isn’t boring,” they say. But you have no idea. Everyday life by definition just isn’t all that exciting—even if you live in a place considered exotic by the people you went to high school with. If I’d been born to Mohamed and Latifa Slaoui and raised in Rabat, no one would think my life here all that exotic, and I’d be all agog to hear about life in the ‘burbs, shopping at Target, or what it’s like to just go out for Mexican food. My kids don’t find their lives exotic. Snowball fights and hot chocolate with marshmallows is MUCH more exciting than eating cinnamon-spiced lamb with your hands under a tent while the Saharan winds swirl the sand outside, or listening to the call to prayer wailing out from the minarets that dot your city, or a guy riding a scooter down your street with milk cans attached front and back, selling milk. (Aside: I haven’t bought any yet but I am going to. Is it goat, cow or camel milk? I’m guessing goat. In Mauritania, at certain times of year, you could go to the edges of the city and buy fresh camel’s milk from the nomads who were there with their herds, but we didn’t since we’re not big milk drinkers. Also I like my milk pasteurized AND homogenized.)
Life goes on as normal here. It’s a sunny day and I’m trying to catch up on the laundry—I don’t have a dryer and the house is so damp that things hung on a rack can take 3 days to dry, and still feel slightly damp. I tell a friend I cannot believe how much of my life is consumed with laundry; with scanning the skies for rain, ready to grab it off the line at the first sign of a sprinkle; with constantly moving the rack from the balcony to the front room, where I put it in front of the space heater and try not to burn it. (See? Bo-ring!)
This week we had a friend visiting from Mauritania, someone we knew who is moving on and stopped by on his way. We stayed up late talking about how things have changed, people who’ve left, people who’ve stayed, as well as various future plans. Other than that, the week has been uneventful. We found a new tailor who has very good prices and got some trousers hemmed. (The Nomad family is height-challenged) Ilsa and I had coffee with a woman from my book group and returned home with our arms piled high with new books to read. Right now? I’m reading one loaned to Ilsa, The Giver. I’m also reading Brick Lane.
Saturday night, we went to a going away party. That’s another constant, another part of our everyday reality. People are always leaving. Others come. I just made a new friend, a new American family here to replace an old American family who are leaving.
The party was great fun. We renewed acquaintances with a couple who aren’t leaving till November. Ilsa made and decorated the cakes, all by herself (well I technically made the buttermilk one, but it was because of time).
Yes, strawberries are in season round here–about 75 cents a pound.
We don’t have food colouring so we used raspberry sirop–you use it to make drinks, like Italian sodas. It worked great and tasted really good too!
Tonight our friend flies out from Casablanca to Alabama (I think. Possibly Arkansas. I get them mixed up. What’s the difference?), returning to a life of Starbucks on demand and traffic laws that are obeyed. What’s exotic about that? Plenty, depending on your point of view.
19 comments
February 5, 2010 at 5:13 pm
LG
I miss boring everyday life in Africa… here in the burbs its raining, too, but I have a dryer, but I forgot and left my wet clothes in the washer all night…. I miss cheap eating out, as in somehow fast food schwarmas are so much MORE than McD’s!
I don’t miss student riots and political demonstrations, but I miss instant friends, that are instantly close. It seems like here a friendship takes a lifetime to build, and I have just spent 15 years of mine in Africa.
And what does that mean? I “spent 15 years” of my life? Did I buy something with it? Did I exchange it for something?
February 5, 2010 at 5:34 pm
Jennifer (ponderosa)
I remember my shock when, at age 24, I was on this grand adventure to Eastern Europe … and I got bored! People live here same as anywhere, I told my mom; it’s not exotic to them, and the longer I’m here the less exotic it seems to me.
That said: I’ve lived in Central Oregon for 8 years now and it still seems exotic to me. At the grocery store you see people wearing their ski gear. Isn’t that crazy? Ski gear! In the bread aisle!
February 5, 2010 at 7:17 pm
gretchen from lifenut
It’s easy to find exotic. All I have to do is drive for 20 minutes and I’m on Pearl Street in Boulder. Of course it’s a manufactured exotic.
I will always think your life is exotic and read your posts with a dropped jaw (sometimes). It’s probably good I will never visit you (money, time, no invitation) because I would walk around the whole time saying “Gollll-eee! Gee Whiz! Would ya look at that!?” just like my dad used to do when we visited downtown Denver as kids. He did it to embarrass us and make us feel like rubes. Which we were.
February 5, 2010 at 7:27 pm
Hali Anderson
I love Ilsa’s cakes!!!
February 5, 2010 at 9:12 pm
LIB
Ilsa’s cakes are ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS! I would feel very honored, if I was the ‘voyager’.
February 6, 2010 at 1:47 am
KathiD
I suppose “everyday life” gets boring sometimes, no matter where you are or what you do.
I sympathize with your laundry woes. Last week my dryer was out for a couple of days, and I obsessed over the laundry the whole time. When everything works, I don’t even think about laundry! I actually like to hang things out to dry, but it has been raining, so that wasn’t an option this time.
February 6, 2010 at 8:48 am
meredith
Ilsa is amazing. Maybe she could give Emma cake baking lessons. I think we all get into a routine no matter where we live. Once in awhile I get re’awed by my surroundings, but mostly I just see the big piles of dishes and laundry that are a pain the world over.
ps I got the 3rd book 🙂 you know what I’ll be doing this week-end.
February 6, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Erica
I remember that day, about two months into my first over-seas teaching assignment in the Dominican Republic, when I was walking my first graders to end-of-the-day car line, and it suddenly hit me that life felt normal again, that things could get boring where ever I lived, and that this was actually a good thing.
And now, twelve years later, back in Ohio, finally in a home with the husband and children I always always wanted and just couldn’t seem to find, I am shocked by the awesome goodness of an almost two year old boy who needs me to change his diaper whining at me to crawl up in my lap so he can practice blowing on and sipping my tea while I type this, and I struggle to communicate to anyone how not boring, who totally awesome this completely pedestrian and everyday event is to me … and fail. Daily.
I don’t comment here very often, but I read everything you write, and appreciate it very much. I’m back in the States now, but it’s so nice to have a fellow expat writing for me so I can still live overseas a bit, at least in my imagination. 🙂 Someday …
February 6, 2010 at 5:32 pm
Pieces
Okay, you’ve convinced me. Your laundry is boring. But everything else still seems exotic!
February 7, 2010 at 4:25 pm
snacks from the cruise buffet
The chapter title in a book I’ve been reading is: “Splendor in the Ordinary” [aka boring everyday life].
It starts with a G.K. Chesterton quote:
“The fascination of children lies in this: that with each of them all tings are remade, and the universe is put again upon its trial. As we walk the streets and see below us those delightful bulbous heads, three times too big for the body…we ought always primarily remember that within every one of these heads is a new universe, as new as it was on the seventh day of creation. In each of those orbs there is a new system of stars, new grass, new cities, a new sea.”
Perhaps younger children would help…
February 7, 2010 at 6:16 pm
Cindy
I get your drift about everyday life. My husband lost his job last week and I find it embarrassingly exciting.
February 8, 2010 at 2:29 am
camper
That’s a nice blog
February 8, 2010 at 2:48 pm
octamom
Love this~it is so right on, how what can seem ‘exotic’ and ‘exciting’ based on locale is the norm for those living it~
As always, love coming over here and peering into the window of your world…even if it is just a Target ‘burbs kind of a day!
And strawberries at .75 a pound?!?
Blessings!
February 9, 2010 at 2:45 am
Beck
Someone told me the other day that I led an exotic life. I laughed and laughed and laughed. NOTHING is less exciting than the life we live everyday. NOTHING.
February 9, 2010 at 2:45 am
Beck
Although your life is quite interesting. And I would like to come over for cake.
February 10, 2010 at 10:10 pm
Miss Footloose
Expat is my middle name. Having spent most of my adult life in foreign countries I know what you mean about “boring everyday life.” Of course we all know that no matter were we live, eventually it becomes routine. It is not always easy to keep seeing the fun of it.
I’ve just found your blog and enjoy reading about your “exotic” life because I have not lived where you live. So, perhaps I might entertain you with a story of my boring life in Armenia…
http://lifeintheexpatlane.blogspot.com/2009/06/expat-life-how-exotic-is-it.html
Nice to meet you!
February 11, 2010 at 12:06 pm
MaryWitzl
I know what you mean about boring life in exotic places, and spending far too much time messing around with laundry. I keep a weather eye out all the time and go flying indoors at the first drop of rain; there’s nothing fun about two loads worth of soured clothes to rewash…and redry.
My kids once came home from their nursery school where they were the only kids who weren’t Japanese, Chinese, or Korean, excitedly discussing an exotic foreigner they’d met, who turned out to be a red-headed boy whose father was from Wales. They were in awe over him for months.
February 15, 2010 at 10:26 pm
Carrie D
I love your snippets of “boring everyday life”! My life is getting more & more laundry in it lately, though thankfully I have a dryer. . .what with all the snow we’re getting, there will be no hanging of laundry outside!
Who stopped over from RIM?? I have heard so many folks are leaving. Makes me sad!
June 12, 2010 at 8:37 pm
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Bedroom. With a carpet. Blue walls. old furniture. Large house- lots of empty rooms. lots of dust and boxes. no air conditioning. tap water, old papers. Chipped paint. Wear and tear. Malls. Park. Schools. Roads. Some convenience stores. A good night is a lottery win. Cable TV, 32 inch screen. Not digital. Slow internet connection. for the longest time, windows 98, now windows 7. q6600, 3 gb. color printers. No video games. some books. Empty driveway. can’t do anything without a car. even with a car, driving around, nothing but houses and stores. grey. duct tape phone cord contraptions. spinning in circles. always thought the grass was greener on the other side. more fun. just more stuff, more junk. go the the mall and sit in the department store, another tv won’t make you happy. the only thing i need/can’t live without – if i am worthy of a life, is a computer with an internet connection. anything beyond that is busy work. its nice to have money so you aren’t scrapping for food or a place to sleep. above that, there is not much else. if i won the lottery I’d be doing the exact same thing. permanently, with certainty. lots of sour, lots of emptiness. qqqqqqqqqq