Friday, I had my teeth cleaned and my body fat measured. No cavities; significant weight loss needed, in case you were curious.
I was thinking about how much maintenance is required to be an average American female, middle-aged I guess (hate that term). Why is that? We must hide our grey, sweat regularly in a forced “work-out” that wouldn’t otherwise be part of everyday life, visit doctor and dentist semi-regularly, watch our salt and sugar intake, avoid too much processed food. I’m all about these things (except salt–salt is wonderful and good, especially when included with processed foods like dill pickles and salt and vinegar flavoured Kettle chips and Moroccan olives), but I do occasionally wonder how fun it might be just let it all go. How bad would I look? I’m not really even tempted to find out.
Coincidentally, ABC News recently did a story about Mauritanian views of beauty. Go read it and watch the video: I’ll wait here. Don’t forget to come back!
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=4322187&page=1
The thing is, Mauritanian women care as much about beauty as western women; they just go about it differently. (I’ve posted on this topic before: here and here if you are interested) As is evidenced in the video, they go to great lengths–even drinking fat until they vomit–to get those jiggly, fleshy upper arms so seductive to a nomadic man, who knows there’s room on his camel for such a prize. (Not that he’ll really SEE those arms until they’re married, but that’s a different post)
I got a free 7-day trial at 24 Hour Fitness last week at the urging of a friend, and went over to check them out. I like working out; love the adrenaline rush and the hours spent searching the mirror for those infinitesimal signs of progress. I was prepared for the hard sell; my friend had gone the day before, and been subjected to a very rude body-salesman. He asked her what her purpose in coming to the gym was, and when she said fitness, he looked her up and down and said, “You don’t want to lose weight?” This is not only unforgivably rude, but also ridiculous, as she is not at all fat.
So I was prepared. Forewarned is forearmed. I was all ready to riposte, “You must be a lot of fun at parties!” if they implied so bluntly what is true: that I should lose more than a few pounds.
Of course I got a different guy, one that was really nice and not really as pressuring. He did manage to talk me into joining, but only because of this incredible deal blah blah no initiation month to month blah blah etc.
And so a few days later I had my body fat measured, which in so many ways is worse than going to the dr. At least, the dr wears a white coat and everything is conducted in a hushed, professional manner, rather than in an atmosphere with music blaring in the background and thin women with weighty eyelashes sashaying by in the background.
After all my humiliating statistics were recorded and we both agreed by nodding silently how grim they were, I went to work out. And since I have never before actually BELONGED to an American gym, only ever gone for free trial months or the many many free visits when Heather worked for years at the Willamette Athletic Club, I’m enjoying it. But as I climb onto the elliptical machine (is that right? I really have no idea what things are called), or alter the weights down to some more sensible number, I can’t help flashing back to my last experience with exercise–at the Power Gym, in Nouakchott, Mauritania.
In Mauritania, there are women’s hours and men’s hours. Women show up swathed head to toe in colourful veils called mulaffas, and even the Western women are generally well-covered when they arrive at the gym. Stephanie had to post signs explaining that women were not allowed to work out in their street clothes–that the long gauzy cloths could catch on bits of machinery–and she had to reassure and reassure that no man would dare darken even the door during women’s hours. If the male guard had a question for Stephanie, he would send his wife, who also used the gym’s fridge, which sold cold water (scorned by locals, who know that drinking cold water when you’re hot ensures you’ll get a cold yourself) to store her meat for the evening’s meal.
It’s a little different at 24 Hour Fitness, where I can go whenever I like, a fact I appreciate, as women’s hours always seemed to be at inconvenient times. No longer am I startlingly thin in comparison to my fellow sufferers; no longer am I the only one red-faced and puffing on the exercise bikes. I used to work really hard at the gym in Nouakchott and get my heart rate up while jamming out to U2 on my headphones; afterwards, the girl at the front desk told Stephanie that she was worried about me and what if I really hurt myself? Now, no one is worried, as long as I carry my own towel (mine came free in a cereal box) to wipe up my sweat.
24 Hour Fitness is, to put it mildly, bigger and better stocked than Power Gym. You could fit 3 or 4 Power Gyms into it. The temperature is controlled. One entire wall is windows (looking out on a parking lot where other gym members arrive and depart), a change from a place where we had to keep the curtains drawn and windows closed even upstairs, in case passing men caught a glimpse of glories unknown and squashed into a too-small pair of sweatpants. And I like this 24 Hour Fitness where, in addition to young, toned and stylish people, there are plenty who look like me–who are working hard just to maintain.
14 comments
February 22, 2008 at 12:59 am
Steph
24 hour Fitness Club, HAH! What you are missing here: You would have enjoyed the gym last night-I spent an hour “discussing” the advantages of having a huge butt and hips vs. the disadvantages of being skinny “like me”. In the end, I was outnumbered 6 to 1 on which was better for health, wealth and happiness. The only 2 points for which I won was that being overweight can lead to diabetes and bad knees. However, these arguments were quickly set aside. Who cares if one goes through life without diabetes and bad knees? What is worse is going through life not being considered beautiful and sexy. Sigh. I guess that thought permeates all societies on one level.
Oh, yeah, and, it was like 90 degrees yesterday and I had to teach aerobics to some very fat women in a very hot room…they turned off the AC on me about 5 min into the routine. 24 Hour Fitness Club just sounds kinda boring to me!!
February 22, 2008 at 1:10 am
planetnomad
I do miss the Power Gym! I told my personal trainer all about it…totally tripped him out 😉 I don’t, however, miss those 90 degrees plus aerobics sessions!
February 22, 2008 at 2:34 am
meredith
I don’t drink milk, so the idea of being force-fed full fat milk makes me cringe a whole lot. Eeew.
February 22, 2008 at 5:14 am
suburbancorrespondent
The maintenance requirements are incredible – Nora Ephron talks about it in “I Feel Bad About My Neck” – a very fun book.
February 22, 2008 at 7:03 am
Rebecca
I’ve started working out myself because gravity is no longer my bff, but I LOATHE it. I’m a suck.
A few months after having The Girl, I went to a recently opened women’s gym and was given a tour by a tiny 70 pound woman with bald patches in her sparse hair. She asked me what my fitness goals were, and I told her that – at 5’7″ and 135 pounds, I wanted to maybe lose 5-7 pounds and tone up. She shook her head in disgust and said that I NEEDED to lose AT LEAST 30 pounds. I didn’t return, for some reason. (and now I actually DO need to lose 30 pounds, or as she would say, 60.)
February 22, 2008 at 9:26 am
Pieces
Good for you! I’m impressed–as I haven’t worked out for exactly one year. I miss it and yet that hasn’t gotten me off my butt again. That video was fascinating. Just seeing those women try to move makes me feel sad for them. Would they feel free if they lost weight? Or would they feel like alien stick bugs?
February 22, 2008 at 11:44 am
gretchen from lifenut
OMG. I have been feeling bad about my neck recently!
February 22, 2008 at 2:32 pm
cce
And what about the expense in pursuit of all this Western beauty? The gym fees, the work out clothes, the iPod, the manicures, the pedicures, the eye brow shaping, the laser hair removal, the teeth whitening, the boob job, the botox, the fancy cross trainers, the occasional trip to sunny climes in order to achieve a tan worthy of the gym clothes and all that hair removal.
I’m exhausted just thinking about it. And then there’s the gym parking lot populated by Escalades and Sequioas and Land Rovers…Sigh
February 22, 2008 at 8:47 pm
Jolyn
Hmm. I just went to the dentist myself, but I had a cavity, first one since college. Just before going to the dentist I thought maybe I should have plucked some of those stray hairs on the upper lip and chin, but then just as quickly decided they’ve probably seen it all anyway. Do Mauritanian women get obsessive with plucking facial hair? I’ll watch that video soon…
February 22, 2008 at 9:02 pm
LIB
I think the ideal is to be HEALTHY- neither too fat, nor too thin. Exercise–and I’m just talking about a 30 minute walk here–has lots of benefits. But does that get me off my lazy duff–no
February 23, 2008 at 8:32 pm
slouching mom
a culture in which flabby upper arms are extolled?
i’m all for that.
February 24, 2008 at 7:52 pm
Carrie
Ah, great video! Kudos to ABC for making it to the land of sand. That made me smile. . .I could almost smell the market.
I now have 8 weeks to my wedding. WooHoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂
But I feel the need to tone. For me, one side benefit of exercising (which I started right on time. . .not 3 months ago, but just last week!) is that it IS helping to get rid of the wedding-planning stress and the what-to-do-with-100-different-opinions frustrations. yay! I am glad for the outlet.
But not glad about trying to fit one more thing into my schedule. Just as long as I fit into that georgeous white gown!
February 25, 2008 at 8:33 am
AuthorMomWithDogs
The interesting thing about beauty, no matter where in the world, or how it is defined. By it’s very nature, it seems to exclude most of us. But contrasting the extremes of definition here vs Mauritania sure highlights the ridiculousness of it all. At least for me. Off to go find that back of Salt and Vinegar chips. 🙂
February 25, 2008 at 1:18 pm
Rebecca
Email me and I’ll send you all of my birthday party ideas!